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Held down by the chains
Of our own self-limiting beliefs
Never really knowing what’s possible
Will be our death’s greatest grief
 
For within each and all of us
Dwells infinite abundance
Once realized and manifested
All of our deepest desires it grants
 
Awaken the Shakti, uncoil the serpent
Re-engage the power that fell dormant
See your God-image in the mirror
All those primal fears you shall recant
 
Accept the invitation to journey
Into your deepest inner caverns
Excavating the dirt to find the diamond
Your own magnificence is what you’ll learn
 
Understanding your past
Will open the door to your present
Bringing light consciousness to surface
Truth, beauty and love no longer latent
 
All that surrounds us is of our creation
Change your beliefs, change your being
Once you know you’re Christ-self
You will experience full Self-healing
 
HEAL FROM THE LIGHT.
With Love,
theDesignLife
 

Day 16 – Thanksgiving Thankfulness – Intention: It was hilarious – one of the skits from Second City’s “A Clown Car Named Desire” played on the art of manifestation. I won’t give it all away . A lady was seated at a table. Her waiter asked if she was waiting for someone. She confirmed, telling him that her thoughts were creating him, just like in the movie, “The Secret,” when the little boy’s th…oughts manifested a bike. I had to laugh out loud – I had just finished re-watching that movie the previous day!!! Good comedic timing, Universe I am on a bit of an experimental binge with intentions and manifestation, and, all in all, I believe in it – partly because I think I have nothing to lose and everything to gain if it is true and other partly because there is a beauty of simplicity behind the law that intentions create feelings create thoughts create words and actions. So I trace it backwards over and over: My body moves away, I tell you that you are all set, I feel the anxiousness… I want to leave. It’s opposite is true, as well: I grab for your hand, my voice feels boisterous and upbeat, there’s a warmth I feel… I want to be close to you. If this is the case, and we can not only monitor and also change our intentions from negative to positive, we have a lot more control over our outcomes than we believe we do. Therefore, I have also started challenging the belief systems that shape my intentions. The reveal continues, and the biggest surprise is what science has taught me: our belief systems were created and cemented between the ages of 3-7 (!!!), and furthermore, these belief systems are passed on from those who influenced us the most – mom, dad, Granny, teacher, etc. Hmmm. So I am a 34 yo responding to the world from a 3 yo perspective that is made up of a lot of antiquated views. That is quite haunting but not totally daunting . If I want to experience life differently and influence more positive outcomes and changes, then I have a starting place. So, intentions… Set me free . Thank you. Xx

af·firm·a·tion

(n) the action or process of affirming something or being affirmed; (v) emotional support or encouragement.

 
If someone had introduced affirmations to me a decade ago, I would’ve laughed at and dismissed the thought of using them.  Affirmations immediately bring to mind the “Daily Affirmation with Stuart Smalley” skit on Saturday Night Live that, with the help of Stuart, and sometimes his supporting cast of co-dependent family characters, mocks the then dawning new age, self-help era of touchy-feely.  His most popular mantra was: I’m Good Enough, I’m Smart Enough, and Doggone It, People Like Me!
 
Today, affirmations play a very big role in my life, so much so that they have become ingrained into my revised belief system.  I no longer have to will myself to think or say what I think I need to in order to feel more empowered.  I believe them to be true, such as:
 
I am surrounded by love.
I have the power to make my dreams come true.
I live my purpose everyday.
I am provided with abundance.
I will always have what I need.
I have the opportunity to learn from all situations.
And so on….
 
Affirmations are a wonderful tool that helps us replace negative with positive and reaffirming thoughts.  Since thoughts become words become actions, using affirmations can ultimately transform the reality that we are manifesting.  
 
There are so many resources to help guide us through what affirmations are, their benefits and how to create the best ones for your life.  For me, the best guiding principles I have found include:
 
Fake It Till’ You Make It
The affirmations that you create are for your benefit to make your life better.  If you keep telling yourself that you will never find love, you are making it harder to find love – in fact, you are setting yourself up for more failure than success.  Your blinders will be on, and the filter through which you see life will block the love that exists around you.  You are limiting your life in the present and future by focusing on what you do not have.  Change your thoughts to make what you want a reality in your present by creating affirmations that are in the now and positive – you are surrounded by love.  Think of it this way – physiologically, your brain’s pleasure center cannot differentiate between the signals received from a fake or a real smile.  Either way, your brain thinks that you are happy and will start to trigger those endorphins.  While affirmations are certainly not about creating fake anything, in order to get started, you have to prime your mind and the energy surrounding you to let everyone know what you want to create, despite whether or not you believe it to be true… at first 😉 
 
Permeate Your Consciousness (per Louise Hay)
Now that the primer is up, it’s time to get the real paint on those walls!  Keep thinking.  Keep saying.  Keep acting.  Start believing.  In my world, belief is something that cannot be willed.  My beliefs have to be planted and nurtured in order to start growing into full bloom.  Practice makes perfect.  Over time, just like with gratitude, practiced enough, these affirmations become more proactive than reactive.  Instead of being coping mechanisms to deal with a situation, they become an integral part of your daily interactions.  Instead of doing, you are being and believing your affirmations.  The boundaries between affirmations and thoughts start to disappear, creating a belief system that is present, positive and powerful.
 
Think It, Shout It, Write It All Day Long
Affirmations can and should be thought, written and/or recited continuously.  If you are finding that they have already made a home within your belief system, then that’s even better.  Repeating your affirmations throughout the day only serves to reinforce them further.  I love morning affirmations right when I wake up.  They set the stage for the way my day unfolds – if I wake up giving gratitude for the gifts I receive, I am more inclined to view the things that happen to me as such.  My yoga instructor shared her ‘secret’ with us – she writes her affirmations on her body!  I love that.  Find a way to incorporate affirmations into your life and see what gifts are bestowed upon you 🙂
 
If You Can’t Say Anything Nice, Just Say ‘THANK YOU’
I receive varying instructions on how to write affirmations.  What should be simple and enjoyable sometimes turns into messy and confusing.  One of the pieces of feedback I was given that I love is that I can just say, ‘Thank You.’  Thank you for the love I receive.  Thank you for the material abundance being provided.  Thank you for my strength and courage to overcome any challenge.  To me, thank you is the simplest and most straightforward of them all.   
 
Affirmations are all about changing the way we think, and therefore, changing what we manifest in our lives.  Even if you are a non-believer like I had been, what does it hurt to try it on for size and see what potential it holds for you?  It can be as much or as little as you think it to be 😉
 
To end, here is a quote from Louise Hay (godmother of Affirmations):

I change my life when I change my thinking. I am Light. I am Spirit. I am a wonderful, capable being. And it is time for me to acknowledge that I create my own reality with my thoughts. If I want to change my reality, then it is time for me to change my mind.

 
CREATE A NEW REALITY!
 
With Love,
theDesignLife
des·ti·ny

the events that will necessarily happen to a particular person or thing in the future.

 
As sure as American settlers were destined to expand across the continent (thank you, Wikipedia :)), we are destined to expand across this lifetime.  What I mean is that each of us owe it to ourselves to explore our boundless frontiers.  We have a duty to embark on our own inner expeditions – across the barren desert, under the crevices, into the raging waters, over the river and through those woods – to uncover the depths of our thoughts, feelings and knowing. And maybe, if we are so fortunate, we will land at the doorstep of our own ‘home,’ instead of Granny’s, or anyone else’s.
 
We have become shaped by so may forces outside of ourselves that our authentic self has become a little, or a lot, hidden.  I once read somewhere that within each of us is a diamond, representing our truest self, yet, over time, the many facets become smudged, dulling our Inner Light.  I believe our job in life is to clean off the dirt to let ourselves shine.  I like that.  In the words of Florida Georgia Line, ‘Get your shine on.’
 
There are a bajillion ways that one can self- improve, actualize, develop.  My library is overfloweth with Laws of Attraction, Mindset Changes, Power of Flow, Power of Now, Behavioral Science, Positive Reinforcement, Acts of Kindness, Gratitude, Radical Self-Forgiveness, Affirmations and the list goes on.  I believe they all, individually and collectively, hold a lot of wisdom and can act as powerful tools to help anyone live a better life. 
 
I do want to live a better life. 
More so, I want to live my best life. 
 
Therefore, I have been coming up with an expedition map that feels right for me.  Perhaps it has the potential to feel right for you, too, or at least get you started.  Here we go:
 
Ground Yourself – A Solid Foundation
This is highly pertinent for me because my Cancer-Gemini cusper self flows with the currents of water and air.  I can get carried away or lifted off in an instant should the enticement be strong enough.  Therefore, I have to work hard to stay grounded.  Nonetheless, I believe this is the best starting point for everyone, no matter what your sign is 😉  Grounding yourself means ensuring that your basic ‘survival’ needs are being fulfilled so that you feel safe and secure physically and emotionally.  Nourish yourself in the most basic ways with nutritious food, exercise, re-affirming thoughts, a home base and healthy finances.  Grounding provides the strong foundation from which you can explore the rest of the world safely by keeping you connected to stability, comfort and ‘reality.’  The goal is for you to know and feel that your needs are being met and that you are safe.
 
Be Desire-Able – The Freedom to Feel
From a strong physical and emotional platform starts to emerge an able-bodied and able-minded individual.  The body is now capable of providing secure ‘housing’ for our emotions, which need to be felt and expressed openly, easily and appropriately.  We are now ready to flow in the current of our emotions.  I feel like this has been one of the biggest challenges for me.  I found that even though I was emotional, that didn’t necessary mean that I was tapped into what the emotion was or why it was expressing itself.  Within the safety and security of what you have built during the grounding phase, it’s time to explore your emotional self.  Being desire-able means tapping into your emotional spectrum so that you can be receptive to your wants and desires.  Embrace movement and change to create fluidity, desire and sensuality.  Find your yummy and accept it graciously as a gift without guilt.  The goal is for you to be able to release emotional blocks and give movement to those emotions that will supply your vitality and consciousness. 
 
Pack A Powerhouse – The Will to Act
Now it’s time to provide some impetus to act on your wants.  Packing a powerhouse means developing your ego so that you can act from your will in order to build the life you desire.  Strengthen your willpower so that you interact with the outside world responsibly, confidently and, again, appropriately.  I am spending a lot of time in this area since I am taking action.  One of the best things I have done to weather the storms that come my way has been to flex my courage muscle as much as possible.  It helps me not take things personally so that I can withstand the criticisms, judgments and rejections that inevitably come with blazing a new path!  Learn balance, adaptability and self-discipline so that you can meet and persevere through life’s challenges.  The goal is for you to be able to use your personal power to stand up for what you want, take action and move past the hindrances you encounter along the way. 
 
Have A Heart – A Loving Life
Like they say, love makes the world go round.  I couldn’t agree more.  While some live an ego-centric life, most of us live a life that takes other peoples’ feelings into consideration.  Having a heart means living a life led by compassion for yourself, as well as others, so that we can become integrated.  You are learning how to live in balance and harmony with the outside world.  Embrace a blend of loving kindness, empathy and forgiveness so that love can flow freely to and from you.  The goal is simply to love and to be loved. 
 
No doubt that making a life transformation on any level is hard.  In fact, enacting change requires a lot of work just to break ground, but you don’t have to do everything all at once.  Take baby steps to get you there.  Build a strong body, then a strong mind, then a strong will and, finally, a strong heart.  You will find that each step seems to lend itself to the next very easily so that you’re building strength in multiple areas at once while focusing on that specific step. 
 
SHINE ON.
 
With Love,
TheDesignLife
step
(n) an act or movement of putting one leg in front of the other in walking or running; (v) lift and set down one’s foot or one foot after the other in order to walk somewhere or move to a new position.
 
I have a newfound personal manifesto thanks to my vision board find: ‘You don’t have to see the whole staircase. Just take the FIRST STEP.’  And, of course, symbolically, ‘FIRST STEP’ is written on the first step of the beginning of a staircase.  How perfectly poetic 🙂
 
I have lived most of my personal and professional life in terms of plans, contingencies, strategies and methodologies.   I have spent many years defining logical, step-by-step processes meant to complete tasks, produce outputs and create some final performance-related result. 
 
While processes and plans aren’t without value under certain circumstances, they aren’t always productive when it comes to taking the necessary risks to live a life by your design.  For most, dreams represent stretches and reaches into infinity.  They are reserved for fulfillment later, not now.  They promise rewards for long-term gratification.  They are for our ‘dreams,’ instead of our reality.
 
You need to realize that dreams ARE for NOW.  They are and can be manifested whenever you decide  that you want them to be fulfilled. 
 
Some of my favorite moments in life are the ones where I knew exactly what I wanted and didn’t even consider the ‘HOW.’  During college, I found a study abroad Art + Italian program being conducted in Urbino, Italy.  My friend handed me a brochure for the classes his dad was going to teach that summer, and I signed up then and there.  There was no question in my mind that I wasn’t going to do this.  Only after I signed up and sent in the initial payment did I tell my parents (I needed the rest of the money!).  Not until 6 years later did I have that kind of conviction again.  Only one day after I returned home from a one-week-turned-one-month vacation in Los Angeles, I dropped out of a Post-Baccalaureate program and ordered a car moving service.  Within the next week, I moved out to Los Angeles with no job, very shocked/unhappy/sad parents and a semi-shocked/happy/excited friend with whom I lived.  
 
This connection to my conviction is so critical at this time in my life as I am working toward achieving my dreams.  Below are some of the ways I have been able to take that first step and keep climbing:
 
WHERE: Get Clear On Where You Want To Go
No doubt that taking any first step is praise-worthy.  Life can open up some opportunistic doors when you make such a loud and powerful statement.  However, when you know in what direction you want to go, your statement becomes even louder, clearer and more powerful.  You are no longer led by life’s whims, you are leading (your) life.  When you are ready to take that first step, take one that is aligned with what you want so that you are moving in the direction of your dreams.     
 
WHAT: Don’t Overthink Your First Step
Your first step is meant to help you break the inertia and gain some momentum, so don’t get too hung up on what that first step needs to be once you figure out where you are heading.  Start a search, make contact, attend a networking event, research!  Even just creating a buzz by telling friends and family about what your intent is can be a powerful first step because they can help become connectors, buzz agents, your own personal public relations team.  By taking action, you are sending the message that you are serious about making your dreams come true.
 
HOW: Forget About How!
When we start to think about what we want, we also start to think about how we can get there.  Shortly thereafter, the doubts, questions, concerns and risks start to roll in.  While it may seem logical to validate, verify and vet, think about how you are spending your energy.  You end up focusing more on workarounds, risk mitigations and delay tactics than you do on making it happen.  The truth is that no matter how iron-clad we believe our plans and strategies are, the minute we take that first step, we are entering the unknown and what we thought gives way to what actually is.  Your success will be more dependent on your attitude, mindset and flexibility than your 100-page business plan. 
 
WHO: Find Those Who Are On The Same Path
Make it a point to create a network with those who are either on the same path as you or have arrived at the destination where you want to be.  The ensuing support structure will give you an outlet to share your experiences, lessons learned and resources.  Those who have made it to where you want to be can act as guides and teachers, offering light and wisdom. Even if your paths look different, you can gain a lot through the knowledge you share.
 
Taking first steps and forgetting about the how, I have been learning one incredible lesson after another.  The most important one among them has been to trust myself, the process and others.  When I place my trust in all of these components, I only make room for success – there is no allowance for missteps or mistakes. 
 
TAKE THE FIRST STEP.
 
With Love,
theDesignLife
desire

(n) a strong feeling of wanting to have something or wishing for something to happen; (v) strongly wish for or want (something).

 
I have long loved using collage as a way to express myself.  In fact, growing up into my college years, I filled my walls, as well as countless art books, with my collage creations.  My room walls look like they got plastered with collage graffiti!  I cut and pasted anything I could get my hands on, and I was lucky enough to have a family who loved my creativity as much as I did (only after I asked their permission to cut up their stuff ;).  So when I was tasked with creating a vision board, my heart pitter pattered at the thought of cutting, placing and pasting onto poster board.  Joy! Joy!
 
A vision board is a tool that you can use to manifest your desires from thoughts in your head to pictures on a poster board.  It provides the perfect visual stimulation to trigger the yummy emotions that will steep your mind and body to make you feel like you are living your dreams.  Think of the moment when Mary Poppins transports Bert, Jane, Michael and herself into Bert’s chalk painting – their imaginary world came to life!  If that visual didn’t work for you, or if you have never seen Mary Poppins (Go see it!), then think of how you start to salivate when you see the juicy chargrilled goodness in a Burger King Whopper commercial (YUM!).  And that is exactly what a vision board can do for you – transport you into your dream life.
 
For me, the best part about making a vision board is experiencing the pure joy triggered by the pictures and words that I am using to craft my story.  Below are some of the ways I have been defining my desires by design:
 
Make It Yours. Make It Yummy.
This is always my go-to piece of advice for anything and everything.  While it seems so simple, I think this is the hardest part to incorporate.  I feel like we automatically craft a life that fulfills the needs of our families, friends, co-workers, etc. right alongside, and sometimes before, ours.  This is a reality and a necessity at times.  However, with your vision board, make it about you and your dreams.  It will most likely include family, social and professional components, but the idea is to make sure that your desires about these areas of your life are fully expressed in your story. 
 
Paint Your Exact Picture
With the internet at your fingertips, you don’t have to go out and forage for magazines or picture books.  Use the internet to find the exact images that you want to use to illustrate the story of your life, your dreams, your desires.  Pictures hold the power to evoke very specific memories, associations and definitions for each of us. Know the exact association you want to create in your mind and find the exact picture to represent that on your vision board.  For example, I wanted a picture of holding hands to symbolize partnership, commitment, strength, bond and security.   Therefore, I chose the securely held, fingers intertwined, palms kissing holding hands image, rather than the ones of fingers touching, or ones where one hand held more strength than the other.  Make sure that every picture and every word used in your collage rouses joy in your heart, a smile on your face and yummy in your mind.  This way, you will be absolutely certain that you are creating a vision board that is truly representative of your heart’s desire.
 
Use Words to Pack A Powerful Punch
I like to use a dynamic duo of pictures and words on my vision board so that I convey a very clear picture of what I want.  Quotes and phrases are also incredibly helpful to communicate exactly what I mean.  If you are more of an audio than visual person, then words can be helpful to deliver your story since you can read the words and phrases.  Use whatever means necessary to help communicate your dreams effectively for you.
 
Have Fun with Formatting
The categories I am using on my vision board include: Job/Career, Home, Love/Relationships, Self ~ Health, Well-Being, Learning, Spirituality, Duality.  While I could’ve structured them in order of significance or priority, I decided to use a different approach.  Instead, I structured them metaphorically.  I placed anything related to Self on each end of the poster board to represent the pillars I would need to support the other areas of my life – Love and Job.  I also placed Home in the center between the two pillars to be seen as a kind of ‘cross-beam,’ if you will.  For me, my home is my nest and is a breeding ground my well-being and a sacred place to nurture love and relationships.
 
No matter what, have fun with your vision board!  Whether I put my thoughts to pen or to poster board, they both provide a constructive outlet that allows me to turn my dreams into reality.  It’s amazing how communicating my story through spoken word, written word, images, etc. makes it that much more real.
 
TURN DREAMS INTO REALITY.
 
With Love,
theDesignLife
hun·ger

have a strong desire or craving for.

 
My hunger strikes in 60-90 minute intervals… for food, that is!  However, these days, I am noticing a different kind of hunger… for a purposeful life.  I am craving the kind of life that strives toward my dreams.  For the first time in many years, I have been afforded the opportunity to think beyond daily, weekly and monthly.  After digging myself out of a financial grave I very well dug myself into, I now have the freedom to envision my life beyond next year.  Throughout this process, I have come face-to-face with my own angels and demons, which has allowed me to not only understand myself but also my needs and wants much more clearly.   
 
By paying my dues (literally), I finally arrived at what I believe is this sacred, fertile ground to plant the seeds for my dreams to grow.  While I felt a hunger to pay back my debt obligations, I feel an even stronger hunger to make my dreams come true.  I am taking full responsibility for every part of my life – the company I keep, the thoughts I have, the emotions I feel, the words I say.  I am letting go of the non-serving; I am making space for the new; I am changing my belief system. 
 
I am still playing in this fertile soil, and with the help of many different people, I am planting seeds.  Below are some of the techniques they have taught me to help channel my hunger in a productive way to help feed my dreams:
 
Meditate on Yummy
I know all too well that the brain works overtime to try to make all the pieces fit together perfectly.  Life can become overanalyzed and over-engineered.  The best piece of advice that I am given continually is to get out of my head with meditation.  While there are many different kinds of meditation, this version is meant to get soft within your body and prime yourself to feel yummy, then really feel it in your body.  Guide the meditation by leading in with what you want to feel yummy about – job, love, relationships, health, etc. (Swap out yummy for luscious, awesome, fantabulous… whatever works for you to make you feel goooood!) Watch or feel whatever gets conjured up in your mind or body that makes you feel yummy.  This is a great starting point to just see what bubbles up.
 
Write Down Life Outward
I understand that it can be easier to think through where you want to be over the next several years.  Your best bet will be to couple this up with your meditation – sometimes what comes up through your relaxed body and mind will be different from your strained body and mind.  Write down what you want your life to look and feel like over whatever time period you are trying to achieve your goals and dreams.  If you have immediate goals, then start with 3-months, 6-months and 1-year.  For mid-term goals, skip the 3-months and 6-months and tack on 3-years and 5-years. 
 
Create A Vision Board
This is something I am actually doing for the first time right now, and it is so much fun!  I feel like this is a place where you can let your creativity and soul soar.  If there are specific categories or buckets you want to dictate what you want to fill up on your poster board, then you can use your Life Outward list.  In addition, I am letting whatever pictures or words that speak to me be part of my collage.  Since I am focusing on very immediate goals, I am targeting my vision board to represent my life in 3-months and 6-months. 
 
Believe That Your Dreams Are Coming True
Just remember that your thoughts become reality.  If you are living a life that is thinking, saying, doing things that make you believe that you can’t do this, dreams don’t come true, it’s not happening for me…. then all of them will come true.  You must truly believe that what you are doing is helping to plant those seeds and making your dreams come true.  Take ownership of yourself – thoughts, beliefs, expressions – to help turn your disbelief into belief. 
 
My hunger is what is keeping me driven, motivated and focused.  It is my absolute desire and craving for a new kind of life and a new way to live it so that I am fulfilling my soul’s purpose.  Tap into your hunger and see what it’s saying to you
 
GET HUNGRY.
 
With Love,
theDesignLife